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From: Human rights – Footsteps 66

Respecting and standing up for our own rights and the rights of others

Men, women and God

It is easy to let our own cultural ideas and assumptions influence our understanding of biblical texts. For example, the idea that men are called to lead in the church, and women only to follow, has dominated the thinking about gender for centuries. This is in spite of the large list of women leaders whom Paul greets in the last chapter of Romans. It’s also in spite of the fact that he refers to Phoebe, who has taken the letter to Rome, as a minister. He uses exactly the same Greek word for her (diaconos) that he uses to describe his own ministry, and that of Timothy. It doesn’t help us that translators have so often watered down this word, in Phoebe’s case, to simply servant.

We need help from the Bible to understand God’s plans for all areas of our lives, including sexual relationships. Throughout the world, women are very vulnerable to sexual violence. Both rape and assault are happening now on a large scale. Even within marriage there can be violence, often justified by some misguided Christians who hold the view that wives are in subjection to their husbands, and this includes in sexual relationships. St Paul, however, has very different ideas.

Read 1 Corinthians 7:2-7

This passage challenges our attitudes to the sexual relationship between a man and a woman. First of all, Paul places it firmly within the commitment of marriage. Next, marriage is always to be between one man and one woman. Already, those two provisions are protective towards women.

But the most radical part comes when Paul talks about sex between husband and wife. The wife does not have authority over her own sexuality: but her husband does – nothing surprising about that. The surprising thing is the next sentence. The husband does not have authority over his sexuality either – but his wife does. This is dramatic indeed. It is the only passage where Paul uses the actual word authority within the marriage relationship, and it is to be entirely mutual. Husbands and wives are to consider each other’s bodies with respect and consideration. If this biblical teaching were followed in sexual relationships throughout the world, it would mean an end to so much human brokenness, sexual violence and sex-related epidemics.

The writer, Dr Elaine Storkey, is UK President of Tearfund

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