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Indra, Alisha (eight) and Prakash (three) on the steps of their home in Nepal.

From: Home and hospitality – Footsteps 116

How hospitality, kindness and planning can reduce vulnerability and help communities to flourish

Children are not meant to be alone. They should be in loving, nurturing families where they can learn important life skills and feel a sense of belonging.

However, many children across the world find themselves alone for different reasons. Some are separated from their families by war, natural disasters, domestic violence or human trafficking. Others are orphaned. Children without a home are particularly vulnerable to illness, emotional distress, hunger and abuse.

How to help

The first step is to provide for children’s basic needs: safe shelter, nutritious food, clothing and healthcare. Children must be protected from abuse, neglect and exposure to violence.

The following are also very important if children are to flourish, both physically and emotionally.

Love

The unconditional love of a parent or carer helps children to feel a sense of security and belonging, even if other things in their lives are less constant. Children need to know that the love they receive is not dependent on their achievements, but that they are valued and loved for who they are.

Availability

Children need to feel that they are being listened to, and that they have someone to turn to when they face challenges in life. Time is one of the best gifts that caregivers can give to children.

Patience

Children’s behaviour can sometimes be very challenging, but it is important for caregivers to control their anger and try to respond in a measured, appropriate way. Clear boundaries allow children to develop and reach their full potential safely. When children step outside these boundaries, carers need to provide a calm and consistent response.

Play

Children play because it is fun, but play is also key to their learning and development. Play helps them to learn new skills, communicate, gain confidence and physical strength, relate to other people and find out about themselves and the world.

Encouragement

When possible, caregivers should respond to a child’s emerging abilities by encouraging new skills and hobbies. It is important to praise children for what they manage to do, not to criticise.

Opportunity

All children should have the opportunity to go to school and learn the skills they need to succeed as independent adults.

Act of worship

The Bible talks of God’s desire to ‘set the lonely in families’ (Psalm 68:6) and reminds us that ‘religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress’ (James 1:27). It is an act of worship to open up our homes to vulnerable people in response to God’s love and grace in our lives.

 

Children

Playtime!

As well as being a lot of fun, these two simple games help children to develop concentration, determination, speed, skill and sportsmanship. Place the children in teams and encourage them to take it in turns to complete the activities.

Bottle-filling

Fill a container with water a short distance from a row of bottles. Challenge the children to fill up the bottles as quickly as possible using spoons.

Treasure hunt

Hide wrapped sweets and other prizes in plates of flour and encourage the children to quickly find the ‘treasure’ using only their mouths (use one plate per child). To avoid the risk of choking, do not use treats that could easily be swallowed by mistake.

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Written by

Written by  Juliet Mukisa

Juliet Mukisa is the founder and director of Project Shalom in Uganda.

Project Shalom aims to provide orphans and other vulnerable children with a place of hope, happiness and contentment. Some children in their care live as an extended family group in the centre itself, but the majority are supported to live with family members or foster carers in the community.

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